I walk a fine line in many social circles with my view on politics, but the one thing I’m completely open about is my full and un shaking support of equal rights for all when it comes to marriage. Let me be clear on this when I say two consenting adults, regardless of sex. There are countries where children are married when they are babies. That isn’t equal rights, that is child marriage. So for those of you out there that like to make the absurd argument that if I’m a supporter of equal rights for all types of marriage, I should support the crazy dude that wants to marry an animal, let me be clear – You’re an asshole.
Yesterday the state of North Carolina passed a constitutional amendment that didn’t just ban Gay Marriage. It also invalidated domestic partnerships and civil unions. They have essentially stripped gay couples of all of their rights under the law. Companies would no longer have to provide domestic partner benefits. A hospitalized gay man or woman could be banned from seeing their partner in the hospital. If their partner died, they could be legally limited from certain inheritances and are already banned from receiving social security benefits (b/c of federal law).
So really, North Carolina isn’t just making gay men and women 2nd class citizens, they are relegating them to a whole new class. The unwanted, unequal, and unwelcome. No one is asking us to force churches to marry gay couples. As a matter of fact, Catholic churches aren’t forced to marry non catholics, nor are they forced to marry divorced catholics. They can simply say no. Gay couples aren’t asking to have churches, temples, or any religious body marry them. They are simply asking for equal civil rights under law. The government issues a marriage license. Its not a civil union license. Its called a MARRIAGE license. With that marriage license comes specific benefits w/ tax breaks and medical benefits via their health insurance.
So what are you really trying to say? If marriage was JUST a religious thing, then judges couldn’t marry people. Only religious figures could. This isn’t about religion, this is about bigotry, hatred, and fear. I am a christian. I believe in equal rights. Some of the most loving couples I know are gay. I am straight and I am NOT threatened by gay marriage. No gay man ever tried to steal my boyfriend. No lesbian woman I know who wanted to get married threatened the marriage of a straight couple.
Get over yourselves, America. Your protection of “marriage” as an institution is as flawed as a person who doesn’t believe in eating meat telling everyone that eating meat is now illegal. Could you stand there and tell someone who’s life partner is dying that they are not allowed to be there to hold their hand while they take their last breath? Do you honestly believe a human being who loves another isn’t allowed to legally declare that love by forming a binding contract and form a home together? If so, apparently you need to move to North Carolina. Which sounds crazy because I live in Georgia and I thought we were in the bible belt, with Alabama being the buckle. They just took this to a whole new level of crazy. Now they’ve tossed the gauntlet for civil law suits galore and made other red states who need to prove how conservative they are in an election year inspired to pass similar laws.
It’s terrifying. It’s wrong. And I don’t thing it’s what Jesus would do either…